Month: August 2020

Confronting a narcissist is not for the faint of heart, partly because of the narcissist and partly because of the system surrounding him. The traits of a narcissist typically mean that any confrontation will be incredibly difficult, exhausting and often futile.  Imagine confronting someone who lacks any empathy or understanding …

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   I can’t talk about the trauma narcissistic abuse inflicts upon people in a completely academic manner because I’m talking about pain and trauma. So, I want to speak to any who may be a victim of narcissistic abuse first.  If you are the victim of a narcissistic pastor, you …

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My previous blog post described the narcissist in general, particularly the primary traits of grandiosity, an insatiable need for approval and affirmation, lack of empathy, and pattern of lying. As one can imagine, the primary traits of a narcissist run contrary to what is expected of a pastor. One can only …

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Pastors are those whom God calls to lead a congregation, giving of themselves to nurture and care for those entrusted to them. They are like shepherds entrusted with the protection, care, and feeding of sheep. Many are fulfilling their calling in God-honoring ways, creating a culture that is safe, nurturing, …

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